Shalom Existence

Being a recent child of divorce, and thinking about the human capacity for love and what Jesus says love is, has sent me on a trail of opinionated, highly idealistic thought.

I have heard this many times and really hope that in marriages, relationships, and friendships it can remain true to some extent. I know with pain and sin comes distance, and with that distance sometimes in our humanity we feel the kind of love we want is not possible. But, for a moment, imagine that we are completely able to cast all of our cares on Jesus and rely on him to fill our needs.

Some “perfect” love thoughts I have had:

You are supposed to love someone not for what they can do for you, but for what you can do for them. As Christ loved the church (as it was his bride). To desire God’s best in their life, even more than your own (think community vs. individualism). All of this ”you make me feel good,” it’s selfish bull ****.

Secondly, telling someone their faults, then asking them to love you, isn’t really loving. Love expects nothing, but gives it all. To me, this epitomizes why Christ died, he did not expect for anyone to get it right, so he made it right, through loving. So, maybe, if you’re in a tough situation, just keep on loving. Sometimes that does not mean staying in a horrible or dangerous situation, but it might mean still loving, still aiding, even from afar. Sometimes it does mean enduring the worst of times, even without that “connection.” Attraction only goes so far, and if we are made to love in the way of Christ, shouldn’t we atleast try? 

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