The first trimester
I have not written much lately. I have not wanted to. Exhausted, despondant, crabby, these are all the adjectives I would say described me, plus a few I will fail to mention.
Not only was getting pregnant a surprise, the side effects have also been a surprise. I am sure my husband could utter a few choice words about my hormonal changes. I go back and forth between worrying and knowing God will provide. We were not financially prepared for a child at all. But I am reminded of the words of Jesus when he says simply not to worry about that stuff. It is more important for Andy and I to follow Jesus and love each other. Stress is not going to help us. Worry certainly won’t.
We do, however, need a lot of prayer and warm wishes to get us through the joy that is pregnancy.
Pregnancy tips for couples are welcome! 
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Aww baby! I wouldn’t say one word about you.
You’ve been great, I can’t imagine what your body is going through. But I do have a huge amount of respect for you for doing it. I love you, and Jesus WILL provide!
MUAH!
#1 and I think you know this, but be confident that you’re not the only one who feels like you feel. It is normal and those who don’t understand will get over it.
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#2 More for Andy, but from his comment above and reading his feelings about you, he’s got a handle on this…..It won’t last forever and her happiness is what is important. You’ll get yours later
#3 Not to sound drab or negative, but try to get over the crabbyness enough to spend lots of quality alone time together. It will come too fast when you realize alone time no longer exists. Take advantage of each other! Don’t get me wrong, having a family is great and there’s no better feeling than having a baby in your arms, knowing he or she is YOURS, but you know what I mean….I hope
Finally, you guys have the most important part down! If God leads and directs you, He will also provide for you. Stress will only hurt everyone involved.
Thanks so much guys! I am trying to get over the “mood” and it had been a bit better! Thanks for #1, that is exactly what it feels like, and the pregnancy books actually make it worse, bc you realize no one knows what they are getting themselves into, lol! But yes, I will continue to pray for God’s strength. Hopefully I CAN keep that part down!
Hey there Andrea! I hear you my friend. I keep telling myself that this too shall pass and the end result is worth it! I always feel like an alien has taken over my body and I don’t have much control for a while. I agree with the previous post as well – spend as much time as possible together doing fun stuff – go to lots of movies if you’re into that! And finally, get as much sleep as humanly possible! I’m excited for you both, there’s nothing like it! It’s tough, but it’s so good too. You also get to relate to the Bible a lot when it talks about women in labour and being pregnant!
Love you!
1… It will get better. First trimester is the worst for everything.
2… It’s okay to feel scared or conflicted or any of that and don’t let anyone tell you it’s not.
3… It’s worth it.
As you know, Angeline was a surprise since I was on birth control pills. We weren’t even married yet! I spent much of my pregnancy freaking out, scared senseless and mad about my body not being mine, occasionally.
But I thank God every day for that surprise. It’s hard to explain but it all becomes so easy and wonderful and WORTH IT.
And the money thing, babies are not all as expensive as people make out if you’re sensible about it. Babies do not need all that fancy stuff. After the birth, much cheaper. And anyways what a baby needs most is not stuff but love, and you and Andy are BOTH going to be amazing parents. Lucky baby!
It will get much better! Just get through the first trimester. I would say to listen to your body; if you are tired, sleep! Trust me, when baby comes, sleep may evade you… As for sickness, I always would try to eat first thing in the morning.. Ginger Ale and Saltine crackers would coat my stomach and would allow me to eat later in the day. I am telling you I felt much better at about 14 weeks!
My son, Will, was a wonderful surprise too!! I got pregnant at 21 and was still in college. As Heather said, babies are not as expensive as you would think; I think the expense comes in much later into childhood. I will tell you that I found many good deals on baby supplies and clothing at consignment shops.
As far as couples getting ready for baby, just enjoy this time you have with your husband. Also, talk about your expectations that you have for yourself and each other in your roles as parents (i.e. feeding schedules, etc.). I nursed my boys for 18-24 months, so my husband didn’t really get to get in on that. But, he did pull shifts during the day so that I could sleep.
These next months will pass quickly; believe it or not, you will probably miss pregnancy after you have the baby. (I know it sounds weird; I went through some weird emotions after I had my kids!) I will pray for your’s and your baby’s health and well being!