An Email and Response

Dear Ken Huber,

It is my belief that since Americans are comprised of humans, that in some way it has always been the land of the special interest and double standard. In fact, I believe it was in the Euro-descendents special interest to drive the Native Americans out. Today we would say there is quite a double standard when the “Bible Belt” upheld slavery as a good Christian establishment. These are only two examples put in the simplest of terms, I could go no but I will not.

Let’s see… people lie. We’re broken. We are all created in this wonderful image of God, having the potential to do great things, perform miracles really, yet many of us can’t view ourselves the way we’re seen by God, so we lie, cheat, steal and act out of a greediness that can only stem from our horrible guilt and low self worth. People who dislike people because of skin color are racist, I think any other rational person would agree that there are many other valid reasons for disliking someone. Sometimes there might be a special need to look beyond one’s reasons for disliking and delve further into cultural differences and why they might exist. Often we are born into things and taught ways of living that seem to never be able to escape us. Do we have that power? Yes, but some people simply cannot believe in themselves enough to tap into it.

While we might spend money to rehabilitate criminals, we also spend millions keeping them criminals. If you have ever met a drug addict who desperately needs help yet has been released and recommended to participate in the government’s version of rehabilitation, i.e. methadone addiction, you might know what I’m talking about. While victims of crime might see little government help there are many non-profits that exist to serve them, most being beneficiaries of government funding for that very reason.

As a former public school teacher myself I know no one, not a single person, who taught homosexuality in the classroom. I am certain there are some out there, but I am also certain as many also talk about God. I must agree that killing an unborn child is wrong, however it is also wrong to execute a mass murderer. Not only is the cost of the death penalty astronomical, my personal reasons for disliking it is that I am not equipped to cast judgment on another’s soul, and that time sitting in a cell forever might be just what he or she needs to meet God and truly seek repentance. I wish that everyone who sins could meet this end (of meeting God), but to take away the chance from anyone is its own tragedy. Burning books or rewriting them is not something I am familiar with, although I am sure that at some point you have read something that you thought should be rewritten. Should we rewrite facts? No. But sadly for many years our history books of “facts” have been slanted to teach children only the facts and parts of facts that we either could not hide or wanted them to know.

 Our threat is much bigger than capitalism, socialism, communism, any of the –isms. Our threat is a lion who comes to kill, steal, and destroy. I promise you that Mr. Obama, whatever you may think of him, is a human and cares a lot more for you than this lion does. If you are religious I pray that you see that thorough reading of the scriptures (not a one or even several line reading without context) will not lead you to believe he is part of Satan’s plan.

Our border with Mexico isn’t closed and it’s killing Americans and Mexicans (excuse me while I step away from the “fact” that it’s costing Americans money). Mexico and the U.S. must work together, the U.S. to tighten up our gun control and Mexico put together a plan for the drugs that are pouring into this country. Reasons why Mexicans are here: to escape a dangerous environment full of (the U.S.’s) guns that flow freely to drug lords because of OUR lack of gun control, OUR money that purchases the drugs, and OUR people that hire illegal immigrants for cheap labor. Are there reasons that the Mexican government needs to take care of as well? Of course, and I excuse none of the corrupt behavior that has led their people here. But your article was not directed at the Mexicans. Google child slavery in the U.S. and I bet you won’t find pictures of little white kids. The financial benefit we reap from that alone is probably more than you or I could ever imagine. It’s a tragedy what we’ve done in that situation and to desire to push out families without a solution is cruel and far away from any of the morals that I hold dear.

American lives have no more value than Mexican, Chinese, Italian, Sudanese, Nigerian…. Our land is God’s land. The Bible says to welcome the alien. Hebrews were long considered aliens in lands they inhabited. Protesting against policies is an individual’s choice, rights are God given and if burning a flag makes you feel better (although I do not know why it would), but I don’t think any of that makes you a terrorist or anything else, most likely just a person with anger issues.

If I can have a nativity scene on my front lawn I am still freer than many Christians living in this world. Why would I want to force my decoration on someone rather than being able to share the story with them in love and joy? It’s such a small thing, a plastic Jesus in a barn, out of the many things we are blessed with. Pornography is a sad problem, and I hope more leaders out there speak out and offer support for such a sad addiction that has affected so many.

However there are many issues that have exploded with the invent of the world wide web, each one another tragedy to lay on the shoulders of the world.   There is money taken from those who work hard, but I believe many of the recipients of those moneys probably do want to work. If not, have you thought about volunteering in a local non-profit to educate in resume, computer and typing skills? Many people just lack the skill building and opportunity that you and I have had.

Parenting exists and in fact I see great strides. Once upon a time fathers had very little responsibility (have you seen those magazine ads from the 50s?!?!) but more and more are stepping in to be part of their kid’s lives. The green movement is motivating people to be healthy and while demise in this area has been grave, there is hope ahead. Sadly many factors contribute to the high diagnosis and medication of the social, mental and emotional disorders we are seeing today.

If you take me to mean I want to give everyone a handout you take me wrong. I want to give everyone a chance to see a different future for them self. Will some take advantage? Of course, we’re human. Some always will. As for the ever increasing disasters we are faced with, I don’t think any man would know how to handle those situations. Now, I am not saying either reaction was right, only that until we hold the office of President we will never know the amount of red tape, strategic planners, etc. etc. that have to be gone through.  I pray that the best that can be done is done.

Government is corrupt and will probably always be so. Think of Jesus living under the Roman Empire. However much he hated it, he did not concern himself with it. He concerned himself with making disciples who could spread God’s love to the ends of the earth. For the first time ever he purported that people were equal. The best we can do is to support those around us, as equals, and answer to a higher authority. Walk like Jesus. Open your arms and bring as much of heaven here to earth as possible. Because that is what the light of Jesus in your life has the opportunity to do.

Lastly, I don’t think the land of the free and the home of the brave ever truly existed. Since our inception someone has been held in slavery, whether for the cheap import of our goods or services we felt was somehow beneath us, and while yes, there are indeed brave men and women here, so there are everywhere. We, a world, were created in the beautiful image of God. Now try to open your eyes and see the good, help a brother and lean not on your empire to take care of you but the mercy, grace and love of a Father.

*I apologize if this is ineloquent or offensive in any way. It is only a reflection of my personal convictions and experiences.

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There’s only so much I can take…so I have to give it away.

Here is my plea to God:

Please help me to give up my dissatisfaction with the things around me that I cannot control, that I cannot make any better by trying, that I cannot even touch with my own two hands.

Relinquish all this fear and sorrow to you and help me to delight in the blessings that you have given me and to rely solely on you whenever I want to throw pity on myself.

Help me to love others completely and share your love whenever and wherever it is needed.

Thank you for loving me and for being there for me in my lowest times. I hope to never repeat them, but to always remember your hand guiding me out and making a way for me when I saw none. I sometimes forget. Yet I am who I am today because you saw me out of complete darkness and restored a piece of me that I thought may never be restored.

I am a mother, wife, child of God, and the best at these things is all I hope to be, hopefully living and breathing all these things out of the latter.

In your name Jesus, Amen.

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Mommyhood according to Sex and the City

There was one part of the Sex and the City sequel movie that I could really relate to. This won’t be a huge spoiler but there is a point where Charlotte goes in the pantry to cry. Just cry, because both of her girls need her attention, one is constantly crying and the other just ruined one of her favorite skirts. Motherhood was all she ever wanted and when faced with it day in and day out, she finds it completely overwhelming.

Let me say, I have been there this past week. Something, the universe maybe, has morphed us into this teething, constantly hungry, fussy, runny nose, I only want my mommy phase that is wearing me down.

The thing about Sex and the City? I felt how it related to me in my core, but these (2) women have nannies and full-time help for their housework. I have me. And while it doesn’t seem like a lot, no, I KNOW it really doesn’t, there are days when the dishes and dinner really just don’t want to get done because on top of all the entertaining I didn’t get to wake up when I wanted to and whatever I do, be it leisurely or not, everything stops when she wants to eat.

I love her more than life itself. I would give anything for her. My husband is wonderful. He gives me breaks, let’s me sleep when I need to, girls’ nights, whatever I need. But my mind is constantly taken with motherhood and I feel that even in these times there is a tenseness in my bones because I know that as soon as I’m home I’m needed or as soon as she cries it’s over.

No one tells you this. Maybe they do but I didn’t hear it. It’s culture shock. My life is full and her smile lights up my world. But right now I’m tired. And I feel like I have been holding it all together, and that as a SAHM (stay at home mom) certain things are expected. Being happy being with your child all day everyday is one of them. It’s not like that. It’s rewarding yes, and at this time I honestly wouldn’t want anyone else stepping in to assume childcare, but it is work and just like EVERYONE that gets to complain about their jobs being hard, sometimes moms feel the same way. This isn’t a new revelation really, I just never really knew it to be true in the way that I know now. I look forward to the pieces of me that will emerge as mommyhood evolves, but I also look forward to just piecing back together who I am and what makes me, me. Mommy or not.

Dedicated to all the moms everywhere….and to all the moms who do this without any help, you are my heroes.

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Negativity

Expressing your views isn’t wrong. Believing in something with all your heart isn’t wrong. Giving someone an ear to hear them isn’t wrong. Listening while putting yourself in their shoes isn’t wrong.

Could we all do this? Is it even possible? The divisions in our church, in our politics, in our daily lives have become so that- divisive- that cheap comments, demeaning accusations and sick jokes seem to be the norm. How is it that we can so freely put down others and their beliefs? It is one thing to stand for what you stand for and let it be known. Quite another when you use that as a stepping stone to bash, commit slander, cast judgment and generalize entire groups of people.

As Christ followers, are even half of our fights following Christ? Would he bash? Commit slander? Cast judgment? Generalize? I would like to say no.

When did we get so negative….in the name of Jesus?

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Getting Healthy… Again… and after having baby… and I'll spare details of how it changes your body!

Remember  Bridget Jones and the stick insects? I’m not one of them. There are mums like that too ya know, or rather “moms” here in the U.S. We’re so bland.

Anyhow, I have lost 2 pounds. That’s right. TWO stinking pounds. I keep going to the gym, I keep trying not to stuff my face. I drink like a gallon of water a day. Is this what leaning towards 30 does to you? I imagine it only gets worse from here. Andy has lost 12 pounds (granted he started working out like 3 weeks prior to me but he also endured an injury that made him take a break).

All this to say, I’m still going. I’m still trying. And I love the way working out makes me feel. Sweating after a good 40 or 45 minutes and then picking up my baby girl, it’s nice. Definitely more energy, and there’s more sunshine these days too. So here’s hoping that two becomes ten, ten becomes twenty and twenty becomes twenty-something (I think ‘ll be happy with 20)!

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Earth "Week"

Right, I know it’s really Earth Day but it seems that everything and everyone around me are making ways for “deals” or festivals that begin Earth Day a full 5 or 6 days in advance. Not that that’s a bad thing, we should all be more aware of what we are doing to help or hurt the environment around us. Tragically I think it’s mostly hype. The green movement has rocketed thousands of companies to put in to effect seemingly green or green stamped practices to get you to buy their stuff.

Really it comes down to us. Do I use cloth diapers? No. So can I preach? Maybe not. (If biodegradable ones weren’t so dang expensive I might buy those!)

But it’s always a good time to think about what you’re doing. Definitely think about what you’re emitting and if you really need that light on or to go through those seven rolls of paper towels in a week (I realize that might be a tad extreme but that message goes to mostly men who seem not to recognize how to conserve any form of paper product).

I am thinking of going completely chemical free on my cleaning products. I do buy the earth friendly type but I know I could totally make my own and be less at risk for baby girl to accidentally drink something that could potentially have her in the hospital.

So at least have a thought this week about what you can do, and try to avoid the marketing messages if at all possible. (No, if you want me to drive my car across the city and then give you money for something I don’t need then it’s not a green initiative that’s really making a difference. It’s probably just an indulgence to Americans). ;)

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I heart chocolate.

Ah, yes, that sweet velvety smooth cocoa goodness that can calm you on a bad day and treat you on a good. It’s sad that today, when there is so much communication, so much seeming transparency in our interactions, that chocolate producers still find it necessary to use unethical practices in the making of this wonderfulness.

If you buy Hershey’s or ever have, please take the time to read this and decide for yourself if you should continue to do so.

It’s sad, and bittersweet, but it looks like until they can change their practices I am off on a quest for a chocolate peanut butter concoction that can rival that dang egg. PLEASE, let me know if you have any suggestions.

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Getting Healthy….Again!

So, yes, I successfully lost 30+ pounds in 2008. Then in 2009 I proceeded to get pregnant and put back on almost all the weight with the exception of about 8 pounds. But I would say now I’m more determined than ever. I want to be able to swim, hike up Stone Mountain, run around the park and more with my little girl. In order to do that I have to get serious all over again!

It is lovely being a mother, so I know all the curves and jiggles are worth it, but now (most) of them need to go. For reals.

My 1st goal is to lose 12 pounds by May 10th. No, that is not far away but it will probably allow me to fit back into my (non-maternity) bathing suit and take an infant water class with Gems before summer officially starts!

Another thing, I LOVE food! With the exception of some meats I am never going to be a huge “eliminator.” I like a variety in my life and as a Southerner of course I have many weaknesses and loves that are full of fat! Diets DON’T work for me. So here is what I did to get some balance and have a healthier attitude about food and weight loss.

Here are my tips (and how I did it before). I’m posting them here for myself and anyone else who might be interested.

1. Hit the gym AT LEAST 3 times a week (Preferably 4-5).
2. On non-gym days take a walk, do some yoga, something to get that body moving.
3. Eat often, but don’t overeat. Snack on almonds, apples, a little peanut butter with crackers, or a yogurt to get you between meals.
4. Love those leafy greens (and often)! Eat healthy salads (think spinach and bitter greens) with dressing on the side. If you want that fattening dressing, go ahead, but dip your fork and use less than half.
5. Eat breakfast! To be honest I would have a bagel with light cream cheese and a large coffee at least once a week, but it didn’t hinder me losing weight because I kept moving and ate healthy most of the time.
6. Maintain a healthy attitude about carbs, don’t neglect them but don’t make them the centerpiece of all your meals!
7. Eat off the kids menu. Sometimes I wanted something with fries, ya know? Ordering from the kids menu is instant portion control. If you’re still hungry get a side of steamed veggies or a side salad.
8. Have a treat night. Don’t overindulge yourself for a whole day so that you feel gross and run-down at the end of the day. But choose a night and split the cheesecake or have that steak (from a restaurant that serves grass fed beef hopefully) ;) .
9. Don’t think, oh, I can’t eat there or I can’t do that. What I learned? Bruster’s has great yogurt and even the unhealthiest places will let you create your own healthy option (no butter, can I get that with mushrooms and spinach instead of cheese? are great)
10. Drink water!!! Keep a bottle on you and refill it and keep refilling.

Okay! Time to start following my own advice. :) If this doesn’t help you or you think I’m crazy, sorry. Like I said, I’m not a dieter and I’m from the South (unhealthy eating is sometimes a requirement)!

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Have a little Compassion…

Name: Jahidul Islam (BD2190180)

Birthday: November 10, 2002    Age: 7

Gender: Male

Region: South Asia

Country: Bangladesh

Program: Kaunia Child Sponsorship Program

Personal and Family Information:
 Jahidul lives with his father and his mother. At home, duties include carrying water, buying or selling in the market and caring for animals. His father is sometimes employed as a seller in the market and his mother maintains the home. There are 2 children in the family.

As part of Compassion’s ministry, Jahidul participates in Christian instruction. He is also in pre-school where his performance is average. Soccer, singing and art are his favorite activities.

Please remember Jahidul in your prayers. Your love and support will help him to receive the assistance he needs to grow and develop.

Community and Project Information:
Jahidul lives on the plains of Kaunia, home to approximately 5,500 residents. Typical houses are constructed of dirt floors, bamboo walls and corrugated iron roofs. The primary ethnic group and language is Bengali.

The regional diet consists of beans, rice and lentils. Common health problems in this area include viral hepatitis, typhoid fever, asthma and malnutrition. Most adults in Kaunia are unemployed but some work as day laborers and earn the equivalent of $26 per month. This community needs health care facilities, educational materials, schools, employment opportunities and income-generating activities.

Your sponsorship allows the staff of Kaunia Child Sponsorship Program to provide Jahidul with Bible teaching, nutritious food, medical treatment, health and hygiene education, safe drinking water, recreational activities, picnics, tutoring, uniforms, shoes and academic support. The center staff will also provide meetings for the parents or guardians of Jahidul.

Please consider and pray about being a part of Jahidul’s life. You could be a huge difference in the life of this child. Click HERE to sponsor Jahidul. This child has been waiting for a sponsor for more than six months. Credit card payment is required to ensure that this child’s wait ends today. Help make a difference in the life of this child, who is anxiously waiting for a sponsor.

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Have a little Compassion….


Today, give a gift to Gifty. At four years old, Gifty lives with her stepfather and her mother. At home, duties include helping in the kitchen and running errands. Her stepfather is sometimes employed and her mother maintains the home. There are 2 children in the family.

Gifty is not presently attending school. Singing and playing house are her favorite activities. She also attends church activities and Bible class regularly.

Your love and support will help Gifty to receive the assistance she needs to develop her potential. Please pray for her. Click HERE if you are interested in sponsoring Gifty.

This child lives in an AIDS affected area. In Africa, the disease has impacted the entire continent, creating a generation of orphans and vulnerable children. God can use you to help ease the pain of a child in desperate need.

IMPORTANT: A CREDIT CARD IS REQUIRED as payment because this child has been classified “HIGH PRIORITY”. This child has been waiting more than 6 months for a sponsor. Help make a difference in the life of this child, who is anxiously waiting for a sponsor.

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